This institute includes video demonstrations, practice
coaching on real issues using materials from the Professional's Workbook,
and group exercises and feedback. The content is integrated with relevant
theory and practice. Divorce Prevention work is done with individual
couples in a time-limited manner. Recommended training for clergy, chaplains,
counselors, therapists, coaches, marriage educators, or mediators. Can
be immediately applied to work with couples. The concepts change the
paradigm and will change your approach to couples in any setting.

The institute will include:
- Introduction to an innovative approach of divorce prevention technique for ambivalent couples.
- Method to identify couples who are likely candidates for this successful process.
- Discovery exercise to uncover facilitator bias inhibiting successful couple work.
- Specifics skills for dealing with addictions, mid-life crisis, and infidelity.
- Professional materials to guide facilitators and clinicians in negotiating a structured marital separation.
- Ideas and resources for restoring energy to the couples' marriage
- A framework for teaching and building good relationship skills.

Participants:
This one-day training will certify participants to present Controlled Separation workshops
to couples and professionals and/or use the material in their work individually with couples.

Participants will receive:
A copy of the book "Should I Stay or Go" by Lee Raffel and materials including a
Professional’s Workbook which will include support materials to teach the course including
couples contracts and guidelines.

Institute Presenters:

Elsie Radtke is Associate Director of the Family Ministries Office in the Archdiocese of Chicago.
As coordinator of Divorce and Annulment Support Ministries, she applies what she has learned
about failed marriages to couples who want to save their marriage for their own sake and the
sake of their children. She is a teacher and experienced mediator. Elsie received her training
from Lee Raffel, author of the CS process and the book, Should I Stay or Go?;

Kate van Dyke is founder and president of Divorce Counseling and Coaching, Inc. As a mediator,
coach and collaborative practice professional, she guides couples to consider a variety of options
when their marriage is in trouble. Her success with using the Controlled Separation process with
couples will be demonstrated.

"Since being trained to use CS in my work as a Couples Specialist,
my search is over for the "missing piece". By facilitating the CS
process, I have helped couples speak what had
gone unspoken for many months or years. This approach provides,
especially for the most distressed and ambivalent couples, the
structure and topics for discussion that creates a much needed
"clearing" and diffuses a lot of tension and angst between them.”
- Meg Haycraft, Twogether, Inc, Skokie IL

"When couples come to my counseling office talking divorce, I quickly
go to Lee Raffel‘s book “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” As an pastor
and MFT, 90% of my clients are Christian or have a faith foundation and
the concept of a controlled separation is an alternative they are ready to hear.
My experience has been that many couples will continue working
on the relationship without separating since they know they have
alternatives if needed. Those who do use the Controlled Separation
plan find it extremely helpful to have a structure and goals to use the
time apart for a purpose. I heartily recommend this program for the
“toolbox” of every therapist."
- Robert Daugherty, Past President, Wisconsin Association of Marriage and
Family Therapists

For additional information about Divorce Prevention Applying Controlled Separation
visit: www.controlledseparation.com
call 847-514-7709
e-mail to: info@controlledseparation.com

This institute is part of the week-long Smart Marriages conference.

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