PAIRS I Professional Training
Presented by PAIRS Founder Lori Gordon, PhD, Elaine Braff, MA, Hal Braff JD
PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills)
Lori Gordon’s PAIRS program delivers effective relationship skills to couples
in any stage of relationship. PAIRS is a must for marriage and relationship
education counselors, coaches, and ministries.
Programs that will be covered in the PAIRS Intensive Institute include:
"PAIRS JUMPSTART" - An insightful, comprehensive one day program introducing
core concepts and tools from selected sections of the PAIRS program through:
Confiding, Complaining, Clarifying, and Concluding<>“
"PASSAGE TO INTIMACY”- A unique two-day workshop featuring communication
skills, conflict resolution, and identification/management of emotional triggers.
Uncover ‘emotional allergies’ and ‘revolving ledgers’ to increase intimacy, healing,
empathy, and trust.
“LOVE KNOTS” - A powerful one day workshop filled with surprising insights and
humor. Identify hidden expectations that sabotage relationships. Avoid painful
misunderstandings, misperceptions, and assumptions. Resolve dilemmas and
‘Double Binds’. Untangle Love Knots.
“PAIRS: A FAMILY EXPERIENCE” - A joyful experience for the whole family in a
five hour time sequence. Increase communication skills, disagree with respect, love
and humor, resolve conflicts. Acquire invaluable pleasurable lifelong skills.
What you will learn:
Practical Skills for Emotional Literacy. Understand the Logic of Love, discover how
Bonding (emotional openness and physical closeness) can nurture your relationship
as an ongoing source of pleasure. Fight Fairly in Behalf of your relationship. Identify
and change Dirty Fighting. Use the Emotional Jug to develop deeper insights and
understanding of yourself and your partner. Develop skills and a language for confiding
and empathy. From the Daily Temperature Reading and the dialogue Guide to Caring
Behaviors and the Love Bank Account, you will learn how to negotiate a relationship
that brings joy to both partners. Uncover hidden expectation, unravel Love Knots and
Double Binds, acknowledge and appreciate differences, recognize communication
styles that promote pain instead of pleasure, increase empathy, self-awareness
and pleasurable connection.
Who Should Attend:
Mental Health Professionals
Military Personnel
Clergy
Lay Leaders
Educators
Medical Personnel
School Counselors & Teachers
*** Spouses/partners/couples are encouraged to attend to experience what
PAIRS has to offer your relationship! $150/spouse discount for Institute
Materials You will Receive:
Participants receive a Workbook for each of the programs taught, wallet cards,
DVD of key lectures, research, and popular articles, related materials.
Participants will review the PAIRS Licensing Agreement and the PAIRS Ethics Statement.
If after completing the Institute, you wish to become a PAIRS Instructor and teach any
of the above listed PAIRS programs, you must sign the Licensing Agreement and
attest to the Ethics Statement.
Teaching manuals and participant handbooks for the short programs along
with other resource materials will be available for review and purchasing.
Benefits of the PAIRS Part-One Training
• provides mental health professionals powerful tools and
concepts to teach and to use in their counseling practice.
• is the FIRST step towards advancing licensed Mental Health Professionals to
become qualified as PAIRS Leaders and PAIRS Trained Professionals.• provides clergy, military chaplains, mentor couples, and lay educators
dynamic tools to enrich
a marriage and family ministry.
Recommended Reading:
Passage To Intimacy by Lori Gordon
2000 ISBN 0671795961 Softcover $18.95
This book teaches the uniquely effective concepts and skills from the dynamic
internationally acclaimed PAIRS Program.
"Gordon is the MASTER. She takes you by the hand and guides
you step-by-step to build the relationship of your dreams -- one that
will stand the test of time." - Diane Sollee.
"An admirable achievement. A major contribution to the relationship of any
couple who will study its ideas and apply them." - Nathaniel Branden.
Order on amazon at:
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Love Knots by Lori Gordon
Tackles everyday frustrations that cause arguments and lead to endless
misunderstandings that sabotage joy in relationships. Hidden expectations
and assumptions that we bring to relationships that act like emotionally
intense land mines.
Order at: http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/0440502748/104-8028722-1638326?SubscriptionId=0EA2SMGJ9G5VAJFK0SR2
Building Intimate Relationships: Bridging Treatment, Education, and
Enrichment through the PAIRS Program (2003/Brunner-Routledge).
Edited by Rita DeMaria and Mo Therese Hannah. An illuminating overview
of the PAIRS program written by Gordon and PAIRS Master Teachers
that includes practical info about PAIRS exercises and techniques, discussions of theory,
intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, ‘emotional literacy', contracting,
sensuality and sexuality, spirituality, stepfamilies, programs for youth,
gender issues, ethics, and program implementation and research.
"It's instructive for anyone who wants to understand the development
of marriage education – the evolution from marital therapy to marriage
education – and a must read for anyone who plans to attend the PAIRS training.
The book will help you understand and get more out of the training and also
understand how to best integrate the program into your setting be it in a private
clinical practice or a family life education program, a congregation, in the military,
a youth organization – whatever."- Diane Sollee
Order at amazon.com at:
http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/158391076X/104-8028722-1638326?SubscriptionId=0EA2SMGJ9G5VAJFK0SR2
For more information:www.pairs.com
Or contact Cyndee Odom
866-388-5683, ext. 710
email cyndee.odom@pairs.com
This institute is part of the week-long Smart Marriages conference.
Conference Details: download a conference brochure, Register ONLINE, hotel & travel information & discounts, etc.