Editorial Reviews of Not Just Friends:
From the Inside Flap
"I love this book. Before I finished reading it, I loaned it to a
friend whose husband was "not just friends" with a coworker.
She
stayed up all night to read it and found it so helpful. The beauty
of it-so did her husband. It spoke so powerfully to her and
her
husband, I believe it prevented a serious breach from forming in
their marriage. Now that says a lot. I am high on this book and
I
will sell the hell out of it. A must-read for anyone who ever hopes
to be happy in a long-term relationship." -Pat Love, Ed.D.,
author of The Truth about Love and Hot Monogamy.
"I treasure this book, and I treasure Shirley Glass. No one
understands affairs better than she does. She offers her
traumatized
readers compassion, wisdom and unshakeable common sense. NOT "Just
Friends" will save a lot of marriages and a lot of lives."
-- Frank Pittman, M.D., author of Private Lies, Infidelity and the
Betrayal of Intimacy
"Not only is this the most comprehensive book on affairs that I
have ever read, it's the only one that completely reflects the
reality
of affairs as I have observed it in my 22 years of working with
this issue. No matter how many other books you have read on
this
subject, I strongly encourage everyone to read this one. It is
absolutely wonderful!"-Peggy Vaughan, Host of DearPeggy.com
and author of The Monogamy Myth
"NOT 'Just Friends' includes a step-by-step plan for rebuilding the
relationship, a plan which based on my research, really
works! Even in situations when the majority of other therapists she
surveyed disagreed with specific recommendations of Dr.
Glass's, I believe that she is 100% correct. I would highly
recommend this book for couples who have been through the trauma
of
betrayal, for those whose relationship has ended in the aftermath
of an affair, and for therapists who counsel such men and
women. They will all learn a great deal from this wonderful and
well-written book." --Jennifer P. Schneider, M.D., Ph.D.
Author
of Back From Betrayal, Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness, and Disclosing
Secrets.
"NOT "Just Friends" puts a new face on infidelity. The author,
using clinical experience and current research, broadens its
definition, causes and means of resolution. I recommend it as
instructive guide for anyone considering an affair, in an affair,
or
recovering from an affair." --Harville Hendrix, Ph. D., author of
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
It's a relief my mom wrote a great book so I don't have to lie
about it on the jacket cover. The sheer ambition of the book
is
thrilling. NOT "Just Friends" offers one surprising insight after
another. Most radical among these is the central argument
that
we all should think about infidelity in a new and completely
different way: that betrayal doesn't start the first time your
partner
sleeps with someone else; it begins when your partner becomes
closer to someone else than to you." --Ira Glass, Host of
Public
Radio's This American Life
"NOT "Just Friends" is a terrific book, a trailblazer that presents
many new concepts, even for those already familiar with the
issues of infidelity. The author, with her thorough knowledge and a
light touch, guides the reader through the difficulties in
recovering from infidelity. When readers finish this insightful
book, they will have taken a journey of healing with someone
who
has their best interests at heart.--Rona Subotnik, Marriage and
Family Therapist and co-author of the following two books,
Surviving Infidelity and Infidelity on the Internet
"In this long-awaited book, Dr. Glass has provided practical advice
that has a scientific basis, as well as profoundly sensitive
clinical experience about the highly destructive problem of
infidelity, which all relationships face. She now alerts us to the
new
crisis of infidelity and shows us how to safeguard our most
precious relationships from this danger. Everyone should read
this
book! -John M. Gottman, Author of The Seven
Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure
And, more from John Gottman:
Dr.Shirley Glass, the world's scientific leader on treating couples
who have had affairs, has done the really revolutionary
landmark book on this subject. Herwork is simply brilliant,
in my opinion. She has moved the area of affairs outof the
moralistic arena and into the field of social psychology, so we can
understand the phenomenon as human and understand its dynamics. I
think she hasdone more to enhance our understanding of affairs than
any other scientist or clinician.
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